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Rémi C (i.g. - 05:10am Mar 29, 1999 (#1 of 5)
critique
pourquoi est-ce aussi important aux états unis que les parents critiquent leur enfant en privé seulement ?
En France il arrive que l'on se fasse gronder en publique sans
que cela pose problème.
Critiquer/gronder
Critiquer et se faire gronder me paraissent etre 2 choses differentes...
De l'acceptation tacite et de l'autodéfense
De manière générale, on retrouve dans
les deux cas le même type de comportement. C'est-à-dire
que la critique des parents, même si elle n'est pas forcément
acceptée, suscite peu d'opposition immédiate. Les
enfants donnent en fait tacitement raison à leurs parents
en public, ou essaient de détourner la conversion, souvent
en prenant la situation sous un angle humoristique. En revanche,
comparativement, les Français ont plus tendance à
tenter de se défendre face à leurs parents que les
Américains. Peut-être cela tient-il au fait que les
étudiants français sont plus âgés que
leurs homologues américains et s'estiment par conséquent
plus à même d'affronter diplomatiquement leurs aînés
?
Embarrassment
I think we American students prefer for our parents to criticize
us in private (if at all), because when they do so in public,
it's just embarrassing. The kid feels hurt and ashamed, for both
themself and for their parents. I think there's a certain age
when kids want to have some independence from their parents. What
age is it in France?
I can not speak for all Americans because i have had a distinctly
different upbringing than the stereotypical American child. Growing
up Asian American there have been plenty of times that my parents
have criticized me in public. My choice, however, would be to
wait to defend myself in private. This is a product of my personality
and my upbringing. I feel that by trying to defend myself would
be almost as bad as admitting to the criticism. And, I was taught
to respect elders no matter what. If parents or relatives say
things that aren't correct it is not my place to criticize them,
especially in public. i know that my point of view may be very
different from my peers. In that case i would like to know what
the French feel the stereotypical American child and parent is
like? What is the stereotypical French child and parent like?