Brother Manny (firstname.lastname@example.org) asked that I write a short article
about my on-line experiences with Masonry. First, you have to understand
that Masonry is a long held tradition in my family, every generation of
my family has had a Mason in it back to 1774. My Daddy (he'll always be
Daddy to me), and my husband Rodney are both Masons as well as my
So here's my story, I had always known about Masons. I'd spent a lot
of years harassing them, especially Daddy, who just laughed me off. He
never took much stock in what I'd said to him about it. My husband on
the other hand had threatened to quit Masonry just to get me to leave
him alone. I guess a lot of women would have been more than happy to
hear those words. But, for some reason every year I sent that dues card
check in,. I guess those roots go deeper than we think.
Well, I'd been on-line for almost 4 yrs, and was particularly bored
one night and thought I'd check and see how many actual Masons were on-
line. I did a members search, I found large numbers of people involved
in Masonry in one form or another. Well, to make a long story short. I
ran across a man who was with the Anti-Masonic faction. I talked to him
for a few minutes, and decided he was okay, we downed Masonry, he told
me a few "stories" which I took to heart. He invited me to come to the
Freemasonry message board and help him stir up trouble.
Stir up trouble is exactly what I did. I really kept the Masons going
for a few weeks. But, I started noticing something. There was a huge
difference between the men. On one side I had the Anti-Masons, who were
rude, and very inconsiderate men. They were rude to everyone who didn't
believe as they did, they were inconsiderate of everything. My honest
attempts to ask questions, my attempts to defend the Masons when I saw
something I knew wasn't true. They were very rude to the Masons who
posted on the board. On the other side, the Masons were never rude to
me, they treated me as a lady should be treated. They explained my
questions as best they could without divulging anything. They took time
with me. Actually, I thought they were just being nice to me because I
was the wife and daughter of a Mason. But, then I realized, they didn't
know me. They didn't have to give me the treatment that a lady
deserves. They could have raked me over the coals and called me the same
names they were being called "liars and murderers".
I don't know if they knew it, but they were slowly pulling me in,
changing my heart. Through their explanations of different aspects of
Masonry, which I would research through the internet, question my
husband and father, I found they were telling me the truth. Why not?
they had no reason to lie to me. One thing I can say about Masons, they
will tell you the truth, even if it gets them into trouble. I couldn't
say that about the anti-masons. I researched their information also, I
would ask my husband and father about certain things, which they would
confirm or deny. I would also confirm or deny whatthey were telling me
against the Masons through information posted on the internet. Most of
their information, I found to be lacking in substance, not, how should I
say this...it didn't seem to be the whole truth. I found holes in their
Well, little by little, the AOL Masons caused great talks between my
husband and myself. No longer was there the animosity between us, it
wasn't a jealous wife afraid her husband knew something she didn't, it
was more like teacher and pupil. I learned a great many things from my
husband. The biggest thing I learned, was something I knew all along.
He was an honorable man, he set his life up to be honorable to other
men. He made a vow to his Lodge, he also made vows to me, and their both
equal. I came to a great understanding from my AOL Masonic friends. They
have to take their bows in my education, for without them I would have
never petitioned to become a Member of the Eastern Star in Greenwood,
I'm truly happy these men had the patience with me that they did,
without them I don't think I would be where I am today. They have
encouraged me to learn more, not just take the words of those telling me
lies. They have helped to carry on a long tradition of those affiliated
through Masonry in my Family History.
Thank you Manny, for your patience, your honesty, and your kindness.
You're one in a million and I'm happy to count you as one of my friends.
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