Negotiating over salary is not like selling the house where there's a range that separates the parties and some type of steady convergence. One needs to have a credible rationale for the salary position. It could be based on the salary before school, time out of the job market, salary from others, this year's class, last year's, adjusted by year and industry, or it could be based on other salary offers."
Given the fact that all explorations for employment represent a type of acquaintanceship process (in some ways similar to a matrimonial process), there inevitably comes a time in the sequence when if closure does not take place, the negotiations might as well be terminated. As one of our students who developed a case study about his negotiations to work for a large multinational company explained: "I went to New York City expecting to remain in a very deliberative mode. As they answered my questions one by one, it became clear that I was 'sold' and for me to say anything like 'I need to go back and think about it some more' would have seemed very much at variance with the mood of coming to agreement."
Recently, the Career Development Office at Sloan learned of a student who, by putting a series of "this is just my last issue" on the table, actually precipitated a prospective employer to withdraw its formal offer. Such a step is highly unusual -- however, it illustrates the point that as the discussions proceed, a type of momentum develops and if one side keeps raising additional issues (what some people in the trade call the "salami" technique -- i.e.,
how thin can the salami be sliced?), then the other side may very well become disenchanted with the whole relationship and if agreement is actually reached, matters get off on the wrong foot.
We come back to the fundamental point that negotiations for employment reveal a lot about one's approach and how one thinks about complicated issues. If one seems to be too hesitant, too demanding, or too tactical, this is information that may say to the other side, "Now that we know this about the person, we are not sure that we really want to hire this individual."
Remember: the person you are dealing with has to negotiate internally - give her the most amunition possible to defend her choice.