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Strategy: Point to the "elephant in the room"

Surface a concern that is festering, to prevent escalation into harmful conflict.

Listen to both sides without judging. When raising a concern about someone’s actions, choose non-confrontational language, so that the person does not get defensive and can engage in the discussion.


  • Situation #7
    You are on a four-person team. There is a lot of tension in the team because the other two people think X is not doing his share of the work. No one has said anything to X about it.

Response: At the next team meeting tell X that the three of you are concerned about deadlines, ask for an update on his part, and work out an agreement on timing of next steps that is acceptable to all.


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